October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
May you rest in peace beautiful
I came across this story on my You Tube feed today and it truly inspired me to write this article.
Taylor McFadden-Robinson was known as “Your Real Estate Professional”. She was born and raised in the small town of Kingstree, SC. She resided in Florence with her family. The last 5 years of her life have been spent perfecting her craft as a Realtor with United Real Estate Florence. Taylor was licensed in North Carolina and South Carolina. She serviced all of Florence, SC, and surrounding areas. She was the mother of two amazing boys and she also was the owner and founder of Moving Up LLC. Moving Up LLC was established for the convenience of her clients. Her clients had the opportunity to use her moving truck at a discounted fee when they bought or sold a home with her.
Taylor previously attempted to petition the courts for general safety from her own husband (Duncan Robinson Jr.), however, a Florence County judge denied Taylor Robinson’s petition for an order of protection against her husband due to “failure to prove facts of alleged abuse,” according to court records? Family court records show that Robinson and Taylor were scheduled to go before a judge in February 2022, a month after she was killed, for a final divorce hearing. It appears that the Florence County courts failed her! It is reported that Duncan Robinson was charged for fatally shooting Taylor in the head/first degree murder, burglary & possession of a weapon during a violent crime. It’s unfortunate to perceive that if one has experienced any form of abuse whether directly and/or indirectly without proven facts of abuse may be ignored and/or not taken seriously! It is a possibility that some situations and/or offenses can not be proven and/or easily proven especially if the offender is crafty and/or has mastered craftiness or may have others (including third parties) in his/her life or otherwise that enables them by protecting them and their negative behaviors by lying/covering up their behavior(s) (it appears that this actually takes places more often than not). Even if someone has “proof/evidence or proven facts” of the abuse it may also still be easily denied, rejected, or objected to in/outside the courts as well if truth be told. It is believed or statistically proven that there are thousands if not millions of acts of domestic violence occurrences that have not been recorded on record! Currently, in the United States, an estimated 10 million people experience domestic violence every year. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, about 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner. About 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, sexual violence, and/or partner stalking with injury, PTSD, contraction of STDS, etc. In 2022, there were 41.50% of Domestic Violence acts against women in South Carolina.
Taylor Robinson’s petition to the courts was legitimate! And I hope that the laws and/or system(s) will change dramatically for the good regarding someone seeking protection against another individual(s) that values and uphold real accountability after an offense. I’m convinced that all victims of Domestic Violence needs reputable, genuine and experienced Domestic Violence organizations to defend them inside the courtroom regarding a divorce, an appeal and/or injunction(s). Domestic Violence victims needs an army of proper legal support hands down! Taylor Robinson seems like she made this world a better place one way or the other. May her family and loved ones find comfort.
In addition, if you or anyone experiencing domestic violence of any kind please seek immediate help, for example, call 911, petition the courts for a restraining order, immediately and safely exit the relationship and/or environment, tell all of your trusted loved ones, and more including but not limited to contacting your local domestic violence center/resources hotline. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) for additional information. If you are comfortable with carrying appropriate weapon(s) of any kind, you have the option to do so in the event you are forced to protect yourself. If you are planning to divorce a spouse that is abusive, you may consider seeking local Domestic Violence organizations that may legally represent you for they may have the experience to identify quickly the loopholes, manipulation, excuses or more of the opposing parties may attempt to change the narrative and potentially attempt to accuse and/or blame you or accuse you for their own negative behaviors and hopefully the proper legal team will firmly stand up to protect you and your rights with the proper laws and/or case studies that may be applicable to your case. Furthermore, if you’ve already received your final judgment from your divorce and would like to appeal portions of the judgment that appears that the Court was in error, you may consider researching organizations such as the Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment And Appeals Project (DV LEAP) or more to represent you legally if they accept your case and/or inquire(s). Please understand that the DV LEAP may already have a ton of cases they’re representing, therefore, it’s a possibility although your need is great they may not be able to accept your case. If they’re unable to represent you, it’s ok. Keep searching for assistance elsewhere. You are not alone although everyone may not understand or gasp the/your urgency/your need which at moments can feel very frustrating and disappointing. Remember to always enjoy your life in the meantime while you’re in the process of seeking help. Also call YWCA: 616-454-9922 or SAFEHAVEN MINISTRIES: 616-452-6664 if applicable.
Whatever you decide to do, don’t give up! Keep pressing forward to develop healthy habits, healthy (mutual) relationships, self-care, self-awareness, self-respect, self-evaluation and as you see fit set consistent boundaries in place to protect yourself, protect your peace of mind, and overall well-being even if that means letting go of unhealthy habits, relationships, dysfunctional and toxic environments and/or behaviors whether it’s guarding your heart and/or placing a distance between selective biological family members (even may have to cut some off completely, if applicable) friend(s) from your past, acquaintances, associates, co-workers, etc (with/without an explanation) whomever/whoever causes division with his/her foolishness, holds relentless grudge(s), undermine your opinion(s), feelings or otherwise, hateful, insults you, directly/indirectly embarrass you, backbiting, envious, jealous of you or others, compete with you/others, puts you down, attempt to manipulate other’s perception of you, minimize/downplay your efforts including your character, offer(s), gifts or more, anyone who doesn’t have your best interest at heart or who could care less about you, anything and/or anyone that doesn’t in good faith respect you or respect those whom you love, your purpose or your boundaries. Ladies, beware of dating men who may have a toxic/unhealthy emotional attachment to their mother or legal guardian for their behavior(s) may lack empathy.
Furthermore, I generally believe it’s not o.k to date if you’re going through a divorce and/or even after the divorce if you don’t allow yourself time to go through a season of self-reflection, self-care, developing healthier habits (renewing your mind, heart adjustments, proper behaviors/actions/choices, etc) whether you were the one who filed for the divorce or not (including taking time out for yourself after any romantic relationship breakup). What I’ve learned through this process includes but is not limited to that as you grow/mature in some areas, you may find that some individual(s) or affiliation(s) who appeared to be a good fit in your past may not necessarily connect with your future and the path of change ahead. In the meantime, I think that it is o.k. to go out with those whom you consider family, friend(s), friend(s) of the family, in groups, with yourself, etc for a good time. When I think of dating, I think of going out with the possibility of building a committed relationship. Be sure to possibly do a mutually agreed upon local (where your potential partner is currently living, his/her hometown and an international background check) on any and all of potentially romantic partners before you decide to commit to the relationship to protect yourself from marrying or getting close to any potential predator(s) and/or perpetrator(s) who may posses mental instabilities, lack of leadership, purpose and vision, generally a lack of self-discipline, identifying possible negative patterns/behaviors/habits and more. If the significant other refuses the background check for any reason, you may want to move on with your life until you meet someone with emotional & relational intelligence which is part of a solid foundation who values the importance of a background check and more. Please know that it may be possible for your potential significant other to not appear to have anything listed on his/her record that’s alarming yet he/she may display possessiveness, red flags and/or characteristic traits of abuse. Remember you still have the power of choice to not settle for this as well. Be vigilant!
In closing, if you are in an abusive relationship whether it’s physical abuse (reactive abuse, financial, sexual, identity, Coercive control, verbal/emotional, and/or mental/psychological abuse), I strongly believe one should re-consider the relationship and possibly create a plan of escape to safely and effectively exit the relationship perhaps with the help of your local Domestic Violence organizations and more. If your child(ren)’s mother or father were/is abusive towards you in any way or appears to display behaviors that’s deliberately provoking or more possibly consider going (no contact) unless it’s communicating with them in writing regarding your child(ren) or an emergency. You are valuable and more than enough to have a joyful and peaceful life with others who love & respect you in reciprocity with accountability! Please remember to do your own research in order to make the proper decision(s) suitable to your own unique circumstances.
Read the update part 2 article at:
https://positioninthekitchen.com/taylor-mcfadden-robinson-victim-of-domestic-violence-2/
Notes
Position in the Kitchen (Article #5) dated 2/1/2022
www.worldpopulationreview.com
www.dvleap.org
www.thehotline.org
www.msn.com
www.taylortherealtor.org
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abc15 news
I did not know Taylor Robinson personally
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